The Experience of Being Scolded Changes Form the Higher Your Position Rises
In your forties and fifties, opportunities to be frankly corrected by people decrease. To that extent, how you receive the few points that are made determines the quality of work. In the reaction immediately after receiving a point, and in the way of fixing that follows, a person's own habits appear. If you know your habits, you can think of the movement of feelings and the work of fixing separately.
Here, from the qualities of the 12 signs, we organize as general discussion the tendencies in how a caution, when received, is received and fixed. This is not a discussion of the side that scolds; it is strictly an article for the side that receives.
The Fire Quality — Aries, Leo, Sagittarius
The fire quality is a type whose reaction is fast. Immediately after receiving a point, feelings tend to move, but there are also characteristics in the switching over that follows.
Aries has a tendency for a feeling of wanting to talk back on the spot to come out easily. If there is a point that cannot be accepted, you want to check the reason immediately. The way of fixing itself is fast, and this is a type that, if convinced, can change from the next day. The key point is not hurrying your reply on the spot, and taking it away once. If you place some time, the center of the point becomes easier to see.
Leo is a type where whether the point was made in front of people greatly affects how it is received. More than the content itself, how the scene looked is a concern, and the work of fixing can be put off. If you decide in advance to receive a point by content, not by scene, it becomes easier to enter into fixing.
Sagittarius understands the gist of a point quickly, but has a tendency to be poor at bringing it down to detailed fixing procedures. There are times when, thinking you have understood, you repeat the same mistake. A habit of leaving just one point to fix in words is effective.
The Earth Quality — Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn
The earth quality is a type that receives a point concretely. If the reason and grounds are understood, it stabilizes, but to that extent, there is also a tendency to hold things in.
Taurus has a tendency, when receiving a point about its own way of doing things, to take time to change. It is careful about changing the way itself, and can think too much before trying. If you make it a form of trying just one procedure, rather than changing everything, it becomes easier to start moving.
Virgo is a type that, by itself, reviews not only the point made, but related details as well. The fixing is careful, but there are times when the scope is expanded more than necessary and you become tired. Drawing the line is to narrow the scope of fixing to the content that was pointed out.
Capricorn has a tendency to receive a point heavily, as a problem of its own responsibility. Because awareness of position is strong, there are times when you hold things in without consulting those around you. If, at the stage of thinking about how to fix, you take a form of sharing the course with your boss or colleagues, you can prevent holding things in.
The Air Quality — Gemini, Libra, Aquarius
The air quality is a type that organizes a point in words and receives it. Understanding is fast, but on the other hand, habits appear in how it is moved to action.
Gemini has a tendency to listen to the reason for a point and immediately think of another way of doing things. The switch of ideas is fast, but the work of fixing can end with examining a new method, and the actual procedures do not change. For a method you have thought of, a form of trying it just once in the next piece of work and seeing the result fits well.
Libra is a type that thinks about the relationship with the person who made the point, and is careful about how it is received. By worrying too much about whether the other person thinks badly of you, the center of what should be fixed can become blurred. The key point is to separate relationship and content, and check only the point to fix first.
Aquarius has a tendency for how a point is received to change depending on whether its reasoning holds. A point that cannot be accepted becomes hard to enter into the work of fixing. However, in the work of an organization, there are also scenes where you fix things by rules or the other party's circumstances rather than by reasoning. Separating being convinced from the work, and trying fixing it once as a form, is a realistic way of proceeding.
The Water Quality — Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces
The water quality is a type that receives a point on the side of feelings as well. Because it reads the other person's intent behind the words, how it is received becomes deep.
Cancer has a tendency for a point from a person it trusts to remain in the heart for a long time. To that extent, awareness of fixing becomes strong, but if the sinking feeling drags on, it can affect the next piece of work. A form of writing out the points to fix as work, and making a break when finished, fits well.
Scorpio is a type that, when receiving a point, listens quietly on the spot, but thinks deeply about the reason inside. It has the power to judge whether it is truly a point that should be fixed, but while thinking, it becomes hard to convey to those around you. A habit of returning just one word of what you have received to the other person prevents misunderstandings.
Pisces has a tendency to imagine even the feelings of the person who made the point, and to proceed in a direction of blaming itself. There are times when only the feelings remain while the scope of fixing is vague. By replacing the points to fix with words for concrete work, it becomes easier to separate feelings from work.
How to Decide, to Use a Point for What Comes Next
Whichever quality, the judgments needed after receiving a point are the same. Deciding the points to fix, separating them from the points not to fix, and deciding the time to stop fixing. For example, if you received a point about the way of writing submitted materials, a form where you do not try to fix everything in the point at once, but narrow the points to fix in the next one to one or two, is easier to continue.
Points become more valuable the older you get. If you know the habits of how you receive them, you can concentrate on the work of fixing without being pulled by the feelings on the spot. If there is a part that is close, at the next time you receive a caution, please be conscious of the order of your own way of fixing.