The Power to Ask, and Drawing a Line to Decline, Decide a Veteran's Work
As you age, work no longer completes with you alone. Who you ask for what, and how far you take on when asked. The accumulation of those judgments decides how work turns. In ways of asking and ways of being asked, a person's habits appear well. There are people who are poor at asking and hold things in, and people who, when asked, cannot decline and hold things in.
Here, from the qualities of the 12 signs, we organize as general discussion the tendencies when making a request and when being requested. Please read both asking and drawing a line as judgments of work.
The Fire Quality — Aries, Leo, Sagittarius
The fire quality is a type whose power to move by itself is strong. In scenes of asking, that strength can appear on the reverse side.
Aries has a tendency to start by itself rather than ask. If there is time to think about arrangements for asking, it tends to become easier to judge that doing it yourself would be faster. As a result, the amount held increases, and handing over also becomes hard to advance. The key point is to decide whether to ask not by speed, but by whether the same work will come again next time. The more a piece of work repeats, the more value there is in handing it to a person.
Leo is a type that tends to be conscious of how it will be received by the other person when asking. The way of asking can become roundabout, and the content conveyed vaguely. Conveying the content of a request concretely, in the form of a deadline and a deliverable, makes it easier for the other person to move, and keeps the relationship clean as well.
Sagittarius can make large requests, but has a tendency to easily omit conveying detailed conditions. The other person may understand the policy but be lost in procedures. A form of deciding, after asking, just the contact point for consultation when lost in how to proceed, fits well. When asked, it takes on interesting-sounding topics immediately, but in work where detailed adjustment continues, power tends to fall, so it is important to check the scope to take on first.
The Earth Quality — Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn
The earth quality is a type whose power to advance things reliably by itself is strong. Carefulness about asking, and reliability when asked, are characteristics.
Taurus has a strong awareness of wanting to proceed in its own way, and has a tendency to feel anxiety about the way of the person it asks. Even after asking, it can become concerned about how things are progressing and want to intervene. When asking, a form of deciding and handing over only the deadline and the form of the finished result, not the way of doing it, fits well. When asked, work taken on is advanced reliably, but if asked in a way different from its own way, it takes time, so the key point is to check conditions first.
Virgo is a type that can specify the content of a request too much in detail. If there are many specifications, there is no room for the other person's judgment, and checking increases instead. Drawing the line is to narrow specifications to just the points you do not want mistaken. When asked, there are times when it fixes even details beyond the scope asked, so a habit of checking the scope in words before starting is effective.
Capricorn has a tendency, when asked for work with responsibility, to take it on easily even if there is a reason to decline. Because a sense of responsibility for position is strong, the amount held can approach the limit. When taking on, a form of deciding together what, among the work you currently hold, it will be swapped with is realistic. When asking, because it chooses the timing thinking about the other person's burden, asking can be delayed. A form of putting in just a consultation early fits well.
The Air Quality — Gemini, Libra, Aquarius
The air quality is a type that turns work through information and relationships. In ways of asking, too, characteristics of words and systems appear.
Gemini has a tendency to be fast at finding a person to ask, and to be able to speak lightly. To that extent, no record of what was asked remains, and recognition can shift later. A form of leaving what was asked in writing, even if short, fits well. When asked, it takes things on on the spot, but if interest moves, progress can become slow, so it is important to check deadlines from itself.
Libra is a type that adjusts how it asks thinking about the relationship with the other person. Adjustment is good, but by caring too much about the other person, it can weaken a request that is truly necessary. Conveying the importance of the content to ask as it is makes it easier for the other person to put priority as well. When asked, it has a tendency to take on too much, thinking that the relationship will worsen by declining. When declining, a form of showing the scope that can be done, rather than the reason it cannot be done, fits well.
Aquarius has a tendency to be good at asking in the form of systems and division of roles. If the overall division is decided, it becomes easier to move, but individual requests due to individual circumstances can be a weakness. When asked, too, it tends to be perplexed by an individual request that does not fit the system, so deciding the handling of exceptions in advance is the key point for handing over.
The Water Quality — Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces
The water quality is a type that reads the other person's situation. In ways of asking, too, consideration for the other person comes out strongly.
Cancer tends to find it easy to ask a close person, but on the other hand, thinking about the other person's burden, it can hold back from asking. If it holds back too much, the amount it itself holds increases. If you have the viewpoint that asking can also become the other person's experience, it becomes easier to hand over. When asked, it finds it hard to decline requests from close people, and can hold things in. It is necessary to decide, within yourself, an upper limit to the amount you take on.
Scorpio has a tendency to carefully select the person to ask. It can ask a trusted person for large work as well, but time is taken for the judgment until asking. That time can delay the start of work. A form of deciding the standard for asking by kind of work, rather than by perfect trust, fits well. When asked, it bears deeply the scope taken on, but because the line for declining additions outside the scope is clear, if that line is shared at the beginning, misunderstandings decrease.
Pisces is a type where, because it changes how it asks to match the other person's situation, the conditions of the content asked can look as though they change depending on the person. Flexibility is a strength, but variation in conditions can invite confusion later. Conveying just the deadline and deliverable in the same form regardless of the person leads to stability. When asked, it tends to take things on, pushed by the other person's degree of trouble, so a habit of taking it away once and checking the amount is effective.
Connecting the Judgment to Ask to Handing Over
The purpose of knowing habits of asking is to hand work over to people. Among the work you hold, from things that occur repeatedly and things that another person can also advance, in order, making a form for asking is the way to proceed with handing over. For example, if there are materials made by the same procedure every month, first ask for their creation, and change to a form where you yourself move to checking only — that becomes the first step.
Asking is not taking it easy. It is a decision to free your own time for work where judgment is needed. If there is a part close to your own habits, in the next scene where you ask, please try changing just one thing in how you convey conditions.