How to Apologize Becomes Heavier the Higher Your Position Rises
In a position in your forties and fifties, scenes also arise where you bow your head not only for your own mistakes, but for misunderstandings in a team or department. What is questioned at such times is not skill in words of apology. It is the order in which you admit the facts, and what you change afterwards. In how to apologize, a person's habits of judgment appear well.
Here, from the qualities of the 12 signs, we organize as general discussion the habits that tend to appear when apologizing, and the tendencies in how to proceed to regain trust.
The Fire Quality — Aries, Leo, Sagittarius
The fire quality is a type whose movement is fast. Even in a scene of apologizing, the power to try to move next can come to the fore first.
Aries has a tendency to have the speed to apologize immediately upon noticing a mistake. That speed is conveyed as sincerity, but there are times when you apologize before checking the cause, and the same misunderstanding is repeated. As an order for regaining trust, a form of, after apologizing, checking one cause and then conveying measures, fits well.
Leo is a type that, by being too conscious of position and how it looks, tends to avoid scenes of apologizing, or for words to become small. Those around often remember that attitude for longer. The key point is to choose the person and the place to apologize to, and admit the facts in your own words, even if short. The fewer excuses, the more easily the measures afterwards are conveyed.
Sagittarius is straightforward about apologizing itself, but has a tendency to become a rough way of apologizing. There are times when the concrete part of inconvenience the other person is concerned about and the content of the apology shift from each other. An order of listening first to how the other person's work was affected, and apologizing about that part, fits well.
The Earth Quality — Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn
The earth quality is a type that values facts and numbers. In how to apologize, too, a tendency to seek concreteness appears.
Taurus has a tendency for words of apology to be hard to come out until it itself is convinced. From the other person's side, it can look as though the time of apologizing was delayed. If you divide it into a form of, in parallel with the work of becoming convinced, conveying early, first, just the fact that you caused inconvenience, the fall in trust becomes smaller.
Virgo is a type where explanation of causes tends to become detailed when apologizing. The explanation itself is accurate, but what the other person is seeking is often, rather than explanation, how it will be fixed next. An order of keeping explanation short and showing the procedure for fixing first fits well.
Capricorn has a tendency to receive responsibility heavily, and to apologize bearing even more than its own scope of responsibility. That attitude is sincere, but in the work of an organization, if the scope of responsibility is made vague, preventing recurrence becomes difficult. The key point is to convey, divided, the scope to apologize for and the scope to fix by system.
The Air Quality — Gemini, Libra, Aquarius
The air quality is a type whose power to organize in words is strong. In a scene of apologizing, skill in explanation can instead get in the way.
Gemini has a tendency to try to show sincerity by explaining the course of events in detail. However, if the explanation is long, it can sound like an excuse. An order of placing one word of apology at the beginning, and keeping explanation to only what the other person asks about, fits well. Showing by action afterwards makes trust easier to return.
Libra is a type that, thinking about the other person's feelings, can choose words of apology too much. If the time spent choosing words becomes long, the time to apologize can be missed. Prioritizing admitting the facts at an early time over a perfect way of saying it, as a result, protects the relationship.
Aquarius has a tendency to try to convey the course of events organized by reasoning. If there is a part where its own side's reasoning holds, words of apology can become weak. In a work setting, the correctness of reasoning and the fact that you caused inconvenience to the other person are separate matters. A form of admitting only the fact part first moves the discussion forward.
The Water Quality — Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces
The water quality is a type that reads the other person's feelings. In a scene of apologizing, the side of feelings comes out strongly.
Cancer has a tendency, the longer the relationship with the other person, the larger the feeling of sorry becomes, and the words of apology become heavy. That feeling is conveyed, but what the other person seeks is often how to proceed from now on. After conveying feelings, it is important to show the next arrangements concretely and make a break.
Scorpio is a type that chooses the person to apologize to, and apologizes deeply to a person judged to be truly necessary. On the other hand, there are few words in formal scenes, and it can be hard to convey to those around you. In an organizational setting, there are scenes where a form of admitting facts to everyone, even in a short word, becomes necessary. The presence or absence of that one word changes how trust remains.
Pisces has a tendency to imagine the other person's feelings too much, and to become words that blame itself more than necessary. The other person often wants to hear, rather than words of blame, what will be done next. A form of narrowing the content of apology to two things — the fact of inconvenience, and the response from now on — fits well.
The Order for Regaining Trust Is Common
Even if habits differ by sign, the order for regaining trust is common. Admitting facts early, listening concretely to the part that was affected, showing how to fix it, and changing action in the same scene. For example, if a submission was late and caused inconvenience to related parties, the basic order is to convey the fact of the delay before explaining reasons, check the effect, and show the arrangements for the next submission.
How to apologize is that person's way of carrying work forward itself. If you know the parts close to your own habits, you can respond keeping the order, even in a scene where you would hurry. If there is a close part, in preparation for the next scene, please decide your own order for apologizing.